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Journal and Realize Your Dreams

Tuesday, January 22nd, 2008

Judi_Moreo_Client.jpg“Every step I take brings me closer to the realization of my dreams.”

This is a passage out of a new self-help type book by motivational speaker Judi Moreo (on the right), called You Are More Than Enough Achievement Journal. I believe journaling is a smart, healthy way to process your healing journey. It’s a way to express your thoughts and feelings and hopes and wishes and prayers and fears … without having to voice them to the world. It’s almost as important as prayer in the life of a survivor … but heck, who am I to preach about the benefits of journaling! Instead, allow me to introduce you to author Judi Moreo herself in this guest post she wrote for me to share:

Life is happening so fast, there’s no time for stillness or reflection. Many of us have forgotten how to listen to the still, small voice inside of us. Writing in a journal is taking time for yourself. You are giving yourself permission to express your feelings and access your intuition. Writing a journal is a discipline…the discipline of taking care of your inner self. Discipline is the key to all success!

When you write in a journal. Write down anything. Write about yourself…your feelings.. happiness, sadness, things that made your smile, anger, guilt, shame, when you discover you don’t have anger anymore. Write about what you want to accomplish, own, have, and do. Who you want to do it with. Write about someone you love or someone you don’t like, something you observed, or something you wish would happen. Write about your child or your pet or that you forgot to water the plants. Just write. And for goodness sake, don’t wait to get the perfect notebook or the perfect pen!

3cqa46.jpgA journal is a record of your daily thoughts and feelings as well as whatever is happening in your life, so you can stay on track and measure how well you are doing. My “Achievement Journal” takes it one step beyond. It is a system for setting your vision and goals so you can focus forward ….always on the next step. It is a way of seeing how thing emerge in our lives, so we can track our feelings and behaviors. Some people ask me if it’s ok to ask questions in a journal. My response to that is “Only if you want an answer.” Answers come to us in many forms…you may find yourself writing it, you may open a book and there it is on the page in front of us, you may turn on the TV or the radio and hear your answer. It’s possible you will meet a stranger on an airplane or at the car wash and they something that rings true for you. Write all of this in your journal.

In journaling, it is not imperative to write EVERY day, but it is important to write frequently and to record any significant things that happened on those days when you didn’t write. It also doesn’t matter what time of day you write. Write when it’s convenient or when you feel like it.

My business partner, Fiona Carmichael, has had many obstacles to overcome in her life and it seems like just as she gets one taken care of and is doing well, something else happens to her. First as a resident of a country in Africa that came under the power of a radical communist leader, she and her husband feared for their lives and the lives of their children and took steps to leave the country and start over in South Africa. Later after a divorce, with very little education, she once again started over, raising her children and working and getting an education. She moved into a powerful position only to not have that work out, so she started her own business. With the incredible crime and danger in South Africa at that time, she decided to immigrate to America. No sooner did she start getting on her feet here than she found out she had breast cancer. By journaling through all these obstacles in her life, she could see the steps she took to overcoming them and started applying these steps to the journey of getting through the cancer. It’s been a hard battle but she’s done it. In another year, we’ll know if she’s finished with that obstacle. In my heart, I know she is. Fiona once told me, “You build a quality life by taking one step at a time until you’ve overcome your obstacles.”

Journaling is how we keep track of the steps.

Thank you Judi … wasn’t that great? (Here’s another link to Judi’s site, this one specifically to her blog — there’s great reading material there!)

When I first read the excerpt that I started this post with, “Every step I take brings me closer to the realization of my dreams,” I thought … what are my dreams … how has being a survivor changed them … what steps do I need to take to get closer to them …

I realize now that my dreams are much simpler than they used to be. I don’t need to travel the world, I want to experience new places with my family wherever we all wind up. I don’t need a grand house on a hill, I want a home where we can all live happily together. I don’t need fame and fortune, I want to be truly known by the people I’m blessed to have in my life.

The first step for me has been to spend more time with people, talking, traveling, playing … living life, together.

Now it’s your turn … what are your dreams? Have they changed? What steps are you taking to realize them? Are you journaling?

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Five Days a Week for (Almost) Seven Weeks

Tuesday, April 24th, 2007

Remember last week’s post on my daily radiation schedule? After that first day I was so relieved; radiation seemed so painless, so easy …

Then reality kicked in. Day after day I’d hop into my car and head up to New Haven — 1/2 hour there, 5 minutes for treatment, 1/2 hour home — day after day after day after day after day.

It just got so tiring. Even though the staff at the clinic worked to get me in and out of the radiation clinic quickly every single day I was there, there were occasional glitches: weekly appointments with the radiation oncologist, periodic appointments with a social worker, traffic congestion on the highway.

And eventually, side effects started to set in. At first, they were subtle. I just felt sleepier than usual. I found myself tired and emotional on Friday nights — just wanting to stay in bed and sleep, sleep, sleep. By the end of the weekend I’d feel rejuiced, but by midweek I’d start to slow down again … each Friday night was a little worse than the one before.

A friend of mine didn’t experience fatigue when she faced her radiation treatments. But then again, she didn’t have two kids at home wanting as much attention as they could possibly pull from their momma.

And though I slathered tons of cream on my chest after each treatment, eventually the burn just felt horrible. Just imagine getting a really bad sunburn, then going out in the sun the next day with that sunburn exposed yet again — ouch.

So while I thought I’d sail through … it wasn’t as smooth a trip as I had hoped.

Fortunately, Yale had a great complimentary therapy program. Therapeutic massages and Reiki treatments helped make radiation manageable.

Also, a close friend of mine put together a great Bon Jovi CD for me that helped make the driving manageable.

And fortunately, through all the daily doses, my kids were well cared for. My mother came up almost every day to stay with my boys while I went to Yale; a friend stepped in when she couldn’t. On Fridays, my best friend drove up to pick up my boys and bring them to her house for a sleepover.

So do share … what made your treatment manageable?

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